Maturing is realising that actions prove who someone is and words prove who they pretend to be. – Fahmida
I’m in a season of constantly weighing up what people say to me compared to what their actions prove. It’s not fun to continually do this, and I hope to leave this season behind soon.
But this hypersensitivity to words vs. actions makes me consider my own words and actions. Where am I falling short for the people around me who mean the most?
What words am I using that show others a pretend version of me? Where might I be creating expectations I’m not fulfilling or promises my actions don’t support?
The discomfort of this self-examination is necessary. It’s easy to analyse the inconsistencies in others while overlooking our own contradictions.
Perhaps this season of heightened awareness isn’t just about protecting myself from others’ disconnects but an invitation to align my own words and actions more completely.
The greatest integrity comes not from perfect consistency but from the willingness to notice when we’ve drifted and gently guide ourselves back to wholeness.
